Tuesday, October 05, 2010

In praise of innocence (ie, the unpolluted mind)

Some books, movies, tv shows, and a few other et ceteras have come across my path lately and I have been questioning why they need to be in my life.  At one point, I was told that it was just me, that I was just 'sensitive' to these things.  At the time, I was a little cowed and shut my trap.  Perhaps I am too sensitive.  But after some thinking, I asked myself, "Why not?"  What's wrong with NOT filling my head and heart and dreams up with the worst of humanity? 

Now, I'm no fool. I am not talking about putting on blinders and pretending that violent, terrifying, and horrific things don't exist so I'm gonna stuff my fingers in my ears and say "la la la la la."  What I'm talking about is using these things as a form of entertainment.  And in time, desensitizing myself to them.  The things that we see on television are full of murder, language, sex, gore, and anything else the writers can dream up to get people on the couch and watching.  Now I admit, I'm a sucker for murder mystery shows like Castle or Lie to Me, but I know that these are not things Cora should watch.  For the most part, I wait until she has gone to bed.  But, really, why should I be watching things that I know my child, with her wide eyed innocence, will be frightened of, or confused by or keep talking about why the 'man' was 'sad' when really he was terrified and being hurt, when a scene came up that I wasn't expecting and she happened to get a glimpse of it before I could turn it off.  It's one thing for me to stand guard at the gate of the world around her and explain things that happen and people's actions that I am not in control of, but it is another to read it to her, or let her see it on the TV because I'm too bored/tired/busy to take her for a walk outside and let her pick up leaves and acorns and talk about the rocks and the sky and I happen to be trying to catch up on Ugly Betty while folding a pile of laundry! 

I am thinking I need a major shift if I have to defend no only my child's innocence, but my own, from my own choices.  I have no idea where to begin, but I just had to say this out loud (so to speak). I'll leave you with this thought from my own faith tradition.

Philippians 4:8 (New International Version) Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.


MommyB said...

Amen, sister. Have that quote by my bathroom mirror. And I totally agree with you -- my movie choices have been seriously stymied over the years because I have chosen to spend my precious "free" time otherwise. I would rather "lose" a day reading a book that gives me some hope or a reason to get my butt out doing something positive in the world than spend a free hour with the gore. We've also found that while Matthew's age mates watch movies like Star Wars (not so bad!), he'd be terrified, and we want to protect that innocence AS LONG AS WE CAN!

Thesupermanns said...

ah...that is a SERIOUSLY great blog and good verse to think on....its SO true to protect our hearts and minds and our little ones as best we can...it is the wellspring...its so vital. Thank you friend. THANK YOU ALSO for the idea for Halloween...that is a SUPER awesome idea. i like the basket of goodies idea too...i would love to be red riding hood. guess it would just take work for Kevin....i LOVE it...you should do that one year. I will let you know if we chose that theme..thank you

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